Sunday, December 30, 2012

Grateful Joy in the New Year - Intentions can be open!

Happy New Year!  My wish for you is grateful joy as you discover your heart's desire, your own language.  Stay open to your own infinite potential!

I took a yoga class this morning with Camille Monro at Room to Breathe Yoga in HoHoKus, NJ, which is always awesome!  In the first few minutes of our practice, Camille always suggests putting an intention in our mind and heart that will be the center of our practice for the day.  I did this, and nothing came.  This does not disturb me.  In fact, during the last few minutes, as we lay on the floor, so in the moment and clear, post-yoga, during that meditative period that I treasure so much, a feeling came to me.

I remembered a time almost 20 years ago, when I first began training to become an hypnotherapist.  I had never considered going into a profession such as hypnosis.  I just knew that when I began to practice hypnotherapy and worked with a hypnotherapist, that some miraculous occurrences spurred me forward to learn more.  And when I learned more, I realized that hypnosis was a language that I intuitively understood.

Let me explain.  When I was a child, I was musical.  I could pick up instruments and play them.  I sang pretty well, both on my own and in harmony with others.  I was able to learn to play instruments by watching others, or from listening to music.  I learned at a young age to read music effortlessly.  I continued on like this until the age of 16, when my environment was no longer conducive to musical discovery.  At that point, sadly or practically, it became about achievement, getting into a college, and living a very "normal" life.  While I still play piano and guitar and sing a bit, it was not the revelation and saving language it was of my youth.  But I never forgot that feeling of grateful joy.

Things went on like this throughout my young adulthood as an employee, spouse and parent.  I made room as best as I could for my daughters to have the space to be creative, discover their own joyful language.  At that time, I took saxaphone lessons and loved it, but stopped short of joining a band, which I regretted.  However, my life was full with my family and work, and I seldom thought about it.

Then my Mom, Jeanne, got very sick.  I was with her a lot and became stressed.  I began seeing a therapist.  The therapist suggested I see a hypnotherapist.  This began another miraculous time.  As I began not only to practice hypnosis for myself but began to study to become a hypnotherapist.  I realized that hypnosis was another intuitive language for me, just like music.  I was again joyfully grateful, which I continue to be today.

When I first decided to begin to practice as a professional, I was nervous.  My family did not understand.  Some of my friends thought it might be some type of voodoo.  It took time away from them.  But it is not voodoo, not religious or dogmatic.  I'll talk more about what hypnosis is another time.

The point I am finally getting around to is this.  As I embarked on my second remarkable inward journey (the first being music), I received quite a bit of push-back from those around me.  Also, I was confused about just how I would actually work this into my life.  I was more than a little nervous and bewildered, but just as compelled to move forward, wherever forward was.

So my intention at that time, and this morning, became this - I am open to guidance from God.  I am open to inner guidance and enlightenment, but I do not know today what that guidance or enlightenment is.  And that is okay.  I am an open vessel only ever for good.  More information will come at the right time.  It always has.

So my prayer, my mantra, my meditation is simple - Open Open Open - and trust that you know what can come in and to know when it is right.

Happy New Year!  My wish for you is grateful joy as you discover your heart's desire, your own language.

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Be the change...

I realized that it has been way too long since I posted on my blog.  So many wonderful events have transpired since my last post. We are now in the new age, which I had always hoped would be a kinder, gentler time.  Though we have faced adversity in the past months, and much violence, I want to project the intention for peace and joy in this coming time.

A most joyful time of year is happening now, and I am using my energy to be forgiving, loving and proactive.  This may seem like an unusual combination, but I have never believed in lying back and waiting for "it" to happen.  I believe we do need to be the change we wish to see in the world.  This requires action, even if it is action in intention.

A simple way to practice this is to change our self-talk.  Say - "I believe that today is a good day. I know that today is a good day.  Today is a good day."  When you first get up in the morning, look at yourself in the mirror and say "I look good today.  I feel good today.  I am good."  Say - "I am loved.  I feel loved.  I feel loving today."  Practice compassion with yourself.

These thoughts and feelings do not make us into fools, or more easily deceived.  They do not set us up to be taken advantage of.  No, they set the tone for what we expect as we step forward into our days, into the outside world, into our daily lives.

Give it a whirl, and let me know what happens.  Blessings.

Monday, November 12, 2012

Occupy Sandy Relief Efforts

A colleague of mine is volunteering with Occupy Sandy, which has branches in NY and NJ.  We talked this morning about the effort.  This donation set up is through wedding registries on  Also, beyond just the registries, both Occupy Sandy’s are coordinating volunteers, deliveries, pantries of items throughout many community centers, transportation, etc.  It is a herculean effort that is making a difference.

I wanted to share this with you in case you are just not sure what to do.  This registries, set up for needs for both the Brooklyn devastation and the NJ devastation (the only type Amazon has is a wedding registry) helps coordinate very specific items with people who might want to make a donation but do not know what is needed.  Brief description below of the registries and links.  My colleague has mentioned that they are highly organized and have gotten supplies to many of the people who need it. 

Sandy in NY
Occupy Sandy NY and Occupy Sandy's NY Wedding Registry
Shipping Address: Occupy Sandy - Brooklyn, New York
Event Date: November 30, 2012
Couples' Style: Warm, non-perishable
Description: Help donate to the victims of Hurricane Sandy by shipping items to the Occupy Sandy relief outpost at the Church of St. Luke and St. Matthew in Clinton Hill (520 Clinton Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11238). Our team: John Heggestuen, Alex Nordenson, and Katherine Dolan. We are Brooklyn residents and are in touch with the Occupy Sandy team who will receive the shipped items and organize daily deliveries to priority response areas. We are the updating the registry as we get info on what is needed most in affected areas. PLEASE pay for the most expedited shipping - these items are needed ASAP. Also, please contact Amazon after your order and ask them to reimburse you for shipping. We've heard this has been honored for a few people now who told them about the cause and so we encourage everyone to do it! **PLEASE help us track inventory instantaneously - send an email to letting us know what you donated. Email with any other questions/feedback on the registry and email for additional info about our team** Please follow us on Twitter for further updates: @SandyRegistry ***Here's a link to see some of the work being done at the church: *** ***Check out how the storm hit Rockaway:*** ***If you have any issues with the "Gift Registry" saved address for the church not auto-populating please enter it manually: The Church of St. Luke and St. Matthew 520 Clinton Ave Brooklyn, New York 11238 THANK YOU!
NOTE: This couple has requested no gift wrap.

Sandy in NJ
Occupy Sandy NJ and Occupy Sandy NJ's Wedding Registry
Shipping Address: Barrow Mansion, 83 Wayne St. - Jersey City, NJ
Event Date: October 29, 2012
Couples' Style: All you need is love
Description: Your donations make a difference! Critical supplies support NJ residents seeking shelter, food, warmth, and human kindness in Sandy's aftermath. For up-to-date information about how to help, visit or Items purchased will be sent to the Jersey City Sandy Recovery distribution center at Barrow Mansion, 83 Wayne St, Jersey City, NJ, 07302. If you have Amazon Prime or are able to pay for expedited shipping, prompt delivery is GREATLY appreciated. *Items may not show as purchased until they are shipped. Rest assured that they are in queue.* Feedback welcome at @SandyRegistryNJ is Leah Barton hunkered down in Houston, TX, with strong support from Heather Balliet Lee in Jersey City. Hat tip to the original @SandyRegistry in NY. Check out for additional needs. ***SATURDAY UPDATE from the terrific Barrow Mansion volunteers - We are able to deprioritize food, clothes, and toiletries now that other organizations are up and running. We still need CLEANING SUPPLIES and TOOLS FOR UPCOMING RECONSTRUCTION EFFORTS.*** 600 BOXES have been delivered to date - details at Please spread the word through your networks! THANK YOU for your incredible support!
NOTE: This couple has requested no gift wrap.

Thursday, November 8, 2012

Thanksgiving - More than ever, please help others

Living in Northern New Jersey, and vacationing many years on Long Beach Island, the effects of Hurricane Sandy have touched us all.  My family is lucky.  We lost power up north but that was the worst of it.  There are many others that have had profound difficulties, and I continue to keep them in my good thoughts and prayers.

There are so many opportunities to give thanks by helping others who have been displaced and made homeless by this huge storm.  Here are a couple suggestions:

Help residents of Long Beach Island, NJ:  Love In A Bag you need retail therapy that will help residents, purchase the bag.  In addition, here is the official LBI Hurricane Sandy Relief Fund link.

Help residents of Staten Island, NY:  This effort was verified through one of our profs at The College of Westchester in White Plains, NY.  Feel free to contact me directly via email for more information.  He set up a relief effort that the college is participating in to help affected residents of Staten Island.  Call Romeo Brothers Meat Corporation in Brooklyn and ask to donate to Thomas Joseph Catering.  Charge whatever you’d like to your debit/credit card and leave them your name and number (Thomas will be contacting you to let you know how you helped and who got the food your donations went towards).  Romeo Brothers Meat Corporation – (718)331 - 5911

Help residents of Long Island, NY
 Typically, what is needed depends on the location, but food pantries and shelters need serving supplies as well as food and clothing, paper products and water.  Click here for info.   

Here is a partial list of what people need and what caterers are asking for:
 Needed Supplies

·         plastic wrap (high demand)
·         aluminum foil (high demand)
·         half trays with lids (catering style)
·         whole trays with lids (catering style)
·         sternos  
·         blankets
·         towels
·         paper products

Needed Food
·         pasta (any kind) 
·         tomato sauce
·         tomato cans
·         onions
·         garlic
·         grated cheese
·         red peppers
·         green peppers
·         chop meat
·         chicken (breast or parts)
·         broccoli
·         sausage
·         eggs
·         American cheese
·         Cheddar cheese

Cross Post form Bad Girl's Kitchen - Pumpkin Parmesan Pasta Sauce

Williams-Sonoma Pumpkin Parmesan Pasta SauceGetting into the Thanksgiving spirit after Hurricane Sandy, the best thing I could think of, besides helping and praying for victims is to plan Thanksgiving!  Here is a great post from Bad Girl's Kitchen for Pumpkin Parmesan Pasta Sauce.
 Interestingly, Williams Sonoma included a recipe for Pumpkin Parmesan Crock Pot Lasagna that I am going to try for the holiday.  If you don't feel like making the sauce you can purchase it from Williams Sonoma here

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Happy Birthday, Julia!

Julia, Melina and Catie
Happy quarter century birthday to my beautiful daughter, Julia!  Photo above is Julia with two of her besties and roomies, Mel and Catie.  The past 25 years have flown by, well, mostly, and I am looking forward to many more! 
Lots of love towards you today and always, Jul!

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

When you come to a fork in the road, take it...

I love Yogi Berra.  His witticisms, which are legend, are often so true and really hit at the heart of the matter.  When you come to a fork in the road take seems illogical, but think about it.  How often are we split between decisions, and end up not making one, or deciding to do both things?

It is wonderful when the path becomes clear.  What if there is more than one path to take, and you want or need to take both.  Is this possible?
I believe it is.  In fact, I believe that this happens often to people, and that eventually, if we believe in ourselves, the two paths are just one that converges at some point. 

What do you think?